According to one website, ‘relationship abuse is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors used to maintain power and control over a former or current intimate partner. Abuse can be emotional, financial, sexual or physical and can include threats, isolation, and intimidation.’
With everyone’s busy schedules, odd working hours and constant work pressure; most of us have given up on having a work-life balance or a social life. We barely have time to catch up on sleep, so most of us stay away from relationships because who needs the added drama? With the amount of time we spend in our workplaces, we end up making friends, finding a confidante, an office bestie and building various relationships. The most important is the one we have with our boss – that’s the one we bitch about the most. Have you ever stopped for a second and thought why it’s wrong to have an abusive partner but it’s okay to have an abusive boss?
1. If your boss doesn’t put his/ her team first, it’s a sign of a bad leader. Seniors who do not show any concern for their team members’ health, stress, and family issues only care about numbers or revenue. That’s a company you should not be putting your blood and sweat into.
2. Depending on the kind of company you work for, if your boss rejects you basic freedom in a workplace such as using phones, accessing social media, personal space, a quick break or anything that is a necessity for maintaining your sanity then you need to speak up.
3. No one ever thinks they’re paid enough, but why? Because under the pretext of a hard worker, we’re overworked. Bosses constantly pile more work and feign appreciation and trust in the one employee who actually works. You probably are doing the work of four people, but being paid for half.
4. Verbal abuse, insults, sarcastic taunts and sly comments about you, whether in front of others or in private discussions should not be ignored. If someone you work for does not respect you for your knowledge, time and effort; it’s time to break up. You may justify it by saying they probably are taking their general frustration out, but you didn’t sign up to be a punching bag. You got a degree to make something for yourself.
5. If your boss has been promising you a certain promotion, a strong word of recommendation for increment or other incentives and delaying gratification, chances are it’s not coming anytime soon. He/ she is dangling carrots to keep you from leaving and probably doesn’t intend to fulfill any promises. Don’t be naive about it, speak up or walk out.